“You’ve promised me.” Dean (Ryan Gosling) said in despair. Cindy (Michelle Williams) shifted her body towards the cupboard. Inhaled deeply covering her tearful eyes. In a split second we were taken back to the day, which they got married. Tears were also running down their faces. The instant comparison reveals the reality of life – blue is the new word for love.
Blue Valentine depicts the fading sparks of a couple. 6 years of marriage could be a blink, or a lifetime. Dean was brought up in a broken family, his only wish was to love and provide his family unconditionally. On the other hand, Cindy was living with grumpy parents. She never wanted her family to be anything like her parents’. She kept putting effort in her marriage. Nevertheless, it soon became a burden.
“Think of Frankie (their daughter).” Dean urged. “I did!” Cindy relied. “No. You didn’t” Dean lowered his head covering it with his arms. Brought up in single-parent family is not uncommon in today’s society. And it has become less and less important in holding a family together. Living in the shadow of a broken family, Dean eagerly wanted to fix everything. It was not only his call, though. Dean married Cindy because of Frankie, who was not genuinely his. His love for her is greater than who the kid is related to. He dared to take the responsibility, which was not even his. And it’s only because of one word – Love.
“Do you wanna have a baby with me?” Dean asked Cindy when they were in a motel. In which he just wanted to have a good with his wife. Some people may be content with their life devoted to their family, some may want something bigger a career, a passion, or anything that can make them feel good. One point to another, people grow, they won’t stay in one place forever, and it’s a matter of time who’s going walk faster than the other. In this case Cindy did. She wanted to be doctor, she ended up being a nurse because of Frankie. She just has a bigger, greater vision than Dean. She’s got no one to blame but herself.
What I like about the movie is the bona-fide of relationships. Couples fight because their dream is different from the other. They fight because they are not confident enough to walk through live together. They fight because their sparks has gone. They fight because they have grown apart. However, none of these could cost a relationship. What really costs them their marriage is one of them has given up.
The subtleness of the movie makes you ponder your own life. What are you running after? What is enough? Gosling nailed his part flawlessly, while Williams had to keep up her pace to Gosling’s. To be honest it could spend more coverage on their daily life than sex. What really triggers Cindy to make the decision. Overall, it is a good experience watching it.
